Setting Boundaries

Personal boundaries are something that we have all over in our life and sometimes if we have been through trauma, had a rough upbringing, or just were never able to adequately add them to our life can cause difficulties saying no, sticking up for our selves, and sometimes cause us to not be able to get out of abusive relationships. 

Different types of personal boundaries:

- Soft Limits: These people are easy to manipulate. This is a limit that can get you deep into an abusive relationship. These people think and talk about others behaviors as good even if it can harm them

- Spongy boarders: combination of rigid and soft boundaries. They don't really know where their boundaries lie. 

- Rigid Boundaries: physically and emotionally inaccessible. These people tend to be ones who were abused at some point or other in their life. This means that they don't open them selves up emotionally to people, they just don't want people to get close to them. 

- Flexible Limits: This is the best set. These people know what their limits are and what they aren't. They don't manipulate easily and don't fall to things like emotional blackmail. 

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^-- This website covers ways to strengthen your personal boundaries. Along with signs of unhealthy boundaries and what can happen in our lives when we have healthy personal boundaries.